gosh!
sure feels goooood to be well again.
was ill for a whole week. the most God awful feelings went through my system.
then i could not sit still, sleep, function...aaaaaaaahhhh it was a disturbia time for me.
i felt the walls closing in on me. i could not breath, think, sit still, be productive. was just a nervous reck. twiddling my tumbs and looking menacingly at the ceiling.
all in all, glad to be back on my feet and productive too. no more crazy for me.
:-)
Friday, 31 October 2008
Thursday, 23 October 2008
10 things Not to SAy On a First Date
First dates are stressful, period.
You don't want to lie or stretch the truth per se, but you also don't want to send your date running off to hail a cab before you've even ordered the cheese plate. Basically, the goals of a successful first date are to reveal that adorable, endearing part of yourself, learn more about the stranger sitting across from you, and to see if there is any connection between you two crazy kids.
Obviously, it's important to be honest, but some of the more intimate parts of you are well, sorta personal, and no one's forcing you to spill all the beans. (Besides, everybody is intrigued by a little mystery and you want to save something for the second and third dates, right?) We don't really believe there are any hard and fast rules when it comes to dating, and despite what movies would have you think, there is no such thing as the "perfect date," so take these with a grain of salt.
1. "My ex is crazy."There's a fine line between love and hate, but both are equally fueled by passion. If someone even mentions their ex on a first date, watch out, you could be entering into a three-way relationship. Brace yourself: drama ahead! Anyway, if you're not over your ex, keep it to yourself. Your date certainly doesn't want to hear about it.
2. "I would like to get married and have kids asap."Slow. That. Roll. Whether you're a man or a woman, uttering those words automatically puts pressure on an already delicate, stressful meeting, not to mention the fact that it's a foolproof way to scare someone off and fast.
3. "Who are you voting for?"There's a saying in the south about not bringing up politics or religion in polite company. Plenty of couples don't always share political (or religious) views, and learn to make things work. But when you're trying to make a good first impression, it's probably best to avoid overly emotional topics in order to avoid a sparring match. (Look at it this way, if you become a couple, you'll have plenty of opportunities to fight later!)
4. "Can you pay the check? I'm broke."Hey, the economy is in the toilet. Of course you're broke. We're all broke. But common courtesy dictates that the person who did the date asking offer to pay the bill. Chances are, if your date has good manners, they'll over to split it or pay the tip. Let's face it, gone are the days where the guy automatically must pay for dinner or he's a loser. But no matter what the circumstances are, flat out asking your date to pay the bill is a major turn-off.
5. "What's your favorite TV show?"C'mon, we can do better than that. Asking about hobbies and other interests can lead to great conversation, but the last message you want to convey is that your favorite activity is watching the tube with a tub of ice cream. Save talking about "America's Next Top Model" for the work water cooler or something.
6. "Where did you go to school?"Believe it or not, many people didn't go to college, and totally resent being put on the spot with this tired old question. And while plenty of grads are happy to wax on and on about their "glory years" or whatever, it's probably better to ask something like, "Have you always lived here?" "How did you choose your career?" or another more general question that might lead you to discussing educational background. Again, it may seem strange, but for all kinds of reasons, a lot of people have negative knee-jerk reactions to this seemingly innocuous question.
7. "Can I take your picture?"Creepy much? But yeah, I have girlfriends who've been waylaid by this gem. For real. Maybe it's the thought of him showing his buddies your photo and bragging about bagging you, or even the image of him fawning over your pic tacked up on one of those cray-cray serial killer wall collages. Either way, ick.
8. "I'm poly-(fill in the blank)"There are folks who are polyamorous (def: the desire, practice, or acceptance of having more than one loving, intimate relationship at a time with the full knowledge and consent of everyone involved); polygamist (def: the practice of marriage to more than one spouse simultaneously); and yes, some are even polyester salesmen (def: dudes who peddle chintzy wares). Right then. Unless you met that person on a "special" site devoted to that kind of stuff, chances are your date won't appreciate your um, open-minded ways.
9. "So I just got out of rehab."So maybe you have some personal problems you've been working on. Perhaps you've been in therapy since you were 13 years old. Whatever the case may be, it's probably best not to introduce your new romantic interest to your BIG, SCARY ISSUES, at least not yet. Everybody has problems big and small, but the first date is more about showing off your personality, not painting yourself as a psychotic addict (even if you are, just a smidge). Note: If you are seriously in the midst of a personal crisis, and that includes excessive drug use and/or major psychological treatment, not to be all judgey, but you probably shouldn't be on a date right now.
10. "So ya wanna come back to my place?"Not everyone is old-fashioned about first dates. The right time to sleep with someone is up to you, but numerous informal polls, um, around the office show that when a guy propositions a woman for sex on the first date, she tends to get skeeved, and when a girl does the same, many dudes are likely to file her in the one night stand category. Double standard? Sure. And yes, some couples do have sex on the first date and there is nothing wrong with that. But I think you know what I'm sayin'...
You don't want to lie or stretch the truth per se, but you also don't want to send your date running off to hail a cab before you've even ordered the cheese plate. Basically, the goals of a successful first date are to reveal that adorable, endearing part of yourself, learn more about the stranger sitting across from you, and to see if there is any connection between you two crazy kids.
Obviously, it's important to be honest, but some of the more intimate parts of you are well, sorta personal, and no one's forcing you to spill all the beans. (Besides, everybody is intrigued by a little mystery and you want to save something for the second and third dates, right?) We don't really believe there are any hard and fast rules when it comes to dating, and despite what movies would have you think, there is no such thing as the "perfect date," so take these with a grain of salt.
1. "My ex is crazy."There's a fine line between love and hate, but both are equally fueled by passion. If someone even mentions their ex on a first date, watch out, you could be entering into a three-way relationship. Brace yourself: drama ahead! Anyway, if you're not over your ex, keep it to yourself. Your date certainly doesn't want to hear about it.
2. "I would like to get married and have kids asap."Slow. That. Roll. Whether you're a man or a woman, uttering those words automatically puts pressure on an already delicate, stressful meeting, not to mention the fact that it's a foolproof way to scare someone off and fast.
3. "Who are you voting for?"There's a saying in the south about not bringing up politics or religion in polite company. Plenty of couples don't always share political (or religious) views, and learn to make things work. But when you're trying to make a good first impression, it's probably best to avoid overly emotional topics in order to avoid a sparring match. (Look at it this way, if you become a couple, you'll have plenty of opportunities to fight later!)
4. "Can you pay the check? I'm broke."Hey, the economy is in the toilet. Of course you're broke. We're all broke. But common courtesy dictates that the person who did the date asking offer to pay the bill. Chances are, if your date has good manners, they'll over to split it or pay the tip. Let's face it, gone are the days where the guy automatically must pay for dinner or he's a loser. But no matter what the circumstances are, flat out asking your date to pay the bill is a major turn-off.
5. "What's your favorite TV show?"C'mon, we can do better than that. Asking about hobbies and other interests can lead to great conversation, but the last message you want to convey is that your favorite activity is watching the tube with a tub of ice cream. Save talking about "America's Next Top Model" for the work water cooler or something.
6. "Where did you go to school?"Believe it or not, many people didn't go to college, and totally resent being put on the spot with this tired old question. And while plenty of grads are happy to wax on and on about their "glory years" or whatever, it's probably better to ask something like, "Have you always lived here?" "How did you choose your career?" or another more general question that might lead you to discussing educational background. Again, it may seem strange, but for all kinds of reasons, a lot of people have negative knee-jerk reactions to this seemingly innocuous question.
7. "Can I take your picture?"Creepy much? But yeah, I have girlfriends who've been waylaid by this gem. For real. Maybe it's the thought of him showing his buddies your photo and bragging about bagging you, or even the image of him fawning over your pic tacked up on one of those cray-cray serial killer wall collages. Either way, ick.
8. "I'm poly-(fill in the blank)"There are folks who are polyamorous (def: the desire, practice, or acceptance of having more than one loving, intimate relationship at a time with the full knowledge and consent of everyone involved); polygamist (def: the practice of marriage to more than one spouse simultaneously); and yes, some are even polyester salesmen (def: dudes who peddle chintzy wares). Right then. Unless you met that person on a "special" site devoted to that kind of stuff, chances are your date won't appreciate your um, open-minded ways.
9. "So I just got out of rehab."So maybe you have some personal problems you've been working on. Perhaps you've been in therapy since you were 13 years old. Whatever the case may be, it's probably best not to introduce your new romantic interest to your BIG, SCARY ISSUES, at least not yet. Everybody has problems big and small, but the first date is more about showing off your personality, not painting yourself as a psychotic addict (even if you are, just a smidge). Note: If you are seriously in the midst of a personal crisis, and that includes excessive drug use and/or major psychological treatment, not to be all judgey, but you probably shouldn't be on a date right now.
10. "So ya wanna come back to my place?"Not everyone is old-fashioned about first dates. The right time to sleep with someone is up to you, but numerous informal polls, um, around the office show that when a guy propositions a woman for sex on the first date, she tends to get skeeved, and when a girl does the same, many dudes are likely to file her in the one night stand category. Double standard? Sure. And yes, some couples do have sex on the first date and there is nothing wrong with that. But I think you know what I'm sayin'...
Monday, 20 October 2008
Employee Review
My Employee Review interview is tomorrow, Tuesday, 21 Oct 2008.
i'm nervous!
this will determine wether you stay, be invested in, salary increased, put on probation or adviced to withdraw.
i really need a fantastic raise.
got to keep filling my forms. i hate filling forms.
oh! i am meant to say postive stuff about stuff i hate doing. ok here goes...
i llllloooooooovvvvvveeeeee filling forms :-)
keep fingers crossed for me and wish me luck.
i'm nervous!
this will determine wether you stay, be invested in, salary increased, put on probation or adviced to withdraw.
i really need a fantastic raise.
got to keep filling my forms. i hate filling forms.
oh! i am meant to say postive stuff about stuff i hate doing. ok here goes...
i llllloooooooovvvvvveeeeee filling forms :-)
keep fingers crossed for me and wish me luck.
Thursday, 16 October 2008
i feel strange today.
just before i go any further... a short paryer.
Lord, let today go well. it si only right to put the days' activities in your hands. guide me (us) right cuz quite frankly, i do not like the way i am feeling.
stomach is quizzy and for me that is strange.
amen.
spent the night at my male bestfriend's place yesterday. he'll be leaving for warri today so we wanted to catch up on what's new in our live. not like we do not know already. it's just comforting to talk face to face and express yourself in the physical.
he is getting married to my female bestfriend. ain't that sweeeeeeeeeeeet. life IS interesting.
they both have, kinda, the same friends cuz we all grew up in the same town. the same asoebi is going to be worn by all friends from both sides so as not put anyone in a dilemma as to which side to belong to.
all in all we are trying to help as much as we can.
MC
spoke to koffi yesterday and mehn! the price hi o!!!
so we negotiated. i used all my resources and connections to bring the price down but no way.
i used - my friend is your friend. NO, no friend in biz.
i used - we graduated from the same school. NO, if he goes back to scholl for masters they will still charge his behind. well... true.
i used - we don't have that much. OK, i'll take of a couple 10ks.
fine by me guy.
we'll get back to him.
BAND
still looking for one.
there was one that performed at a friends wedding. very nice. i could not tell the difference from the DJ. the couple danced in to "stepping out" trying to get their contact.
sugar band. them are HIGH. me sef go form band o!
approximately over 100k for about 1hr. WAT!
na to carry all my friends start to sing o!
but the day must be perfect.
perfectly make someone esle richer.
that's the way of the world.
can't wait. it's going to be a blast! a party! a rave!
we no go send all the mamas and papas.
it'll be good to see everyone again.
here's asking for God's protection and provision towards a successful wedding and life
i love you guys.
just before i go any further... a short paryer.
Lord, let today go well. it si only right to put the days' activities in your hands. guide me (us) right cuz quite frankly, i do not like the way i am feeling.
stomach is quizzy and for me that is strange.
amen.
spent the night at my male bestfriend's place yesterday. he'll be leaving for warri today so we wanted to catch up on what's new in our live. not like we do not know already. it's just comforting to talk face to face and express yourself in the physical.
he is getting married to my female bestfriend. ain't that sweeeeeeeeeeeet. life IS interesting.
they both have, kinda, the same friends cuz we all grew up in the same town. the same asoebi is going to be worn by all friends from both sides so as not put anyone in a dilemma as to which side to belong to.
all in all we are trying to help as much as we can.
MC
spoke to koffi yesterday and mehn! the price hi o!!!
so we negotiated. i used all my resources and connections to bring the price down but no way.
i used - my friend is your friend. NO, no friend in biz.
i used - we graduated from the same school. NO, if he goes back to scholl for masters they will still charge his behind. well... true.
i used - we don't have that much. OK, i'll take of a couple 10ks.
fine by me guy.
we'll get back to him.
BAND
still looking for one.
there was one that performed at a friends wedding. very nice. i could not tell the difference from the DJ. the couple danced in to "stepping out" trying to get their contact.
sugar band. them are HIGH. me sef go form band o!
approximately over 100k for about 1hr. WAT!
na to carry all my friends start to sing o!
but the day must be perfect.
perfectly make someone esle richer.
that's the way of the world.
can't wait. it's going to be a blast! a party! a rave!
we no go send all the mamas and papas.
it'll be good to see everyone again.
here's asking for God's protection and provision towards a successful wedding and life
i love you guys.
Friday, 10 October 2008
Just Ranting
i'm feeling really pissed at the moment.
chatting with my girl FA in Jand and she is yarning things like when you meet someone you just know and all the bla bla.
know what? i don't bloody think so.
fine! you guys talk. you meet. or. you meet. you talk. you go out a couple of times then what?
no one what's to discover the personality, the person, the friend and wonderful human being one is in his own way.
i hate that.
i give people the oppotunity to express themselves even in the craziest way but i'm never given that chance. i do a little "crazy" thing and hey "she crazy!!!".
KINI SE? aaaahhhhhhrggggg! whatever!
some people can just be dufuses. if the word exists.
just lost my train of though cuz i left the page to do something WORK RELATED and now I HAVE COOLED DOWN.
why can't i stay mad for long like other people???
i'm just sweet :-)
right now i'm feeling like the song "Paper Planes" by MIA
it makes me feel light headed.
'nyways, check it out on youtube. don't know how to link it so...
still kinda pissed
chatting with my girl FA in Jand and she is yarning things like when you meet someone you just know and all the bla bla.
know what? i don't bloody think so.
fine! you guys talk. you meet. or. you meet. you talk. you go out a couple of times then what?
no one what's to discover the personality, the person, the friend and wonderful human being one is in his own way.
i hate that.
i give people the oppotunity to express themselves even in the craziest way but i'm never given that chance. i do a little "crazy" thing and hey "she crazy!!!".
KINI SE? aaaahhhhhhrggggg! whatever!
some people can just be dufuses. if the word exists.
just lost my train of though cuz i left the page to do something WORK RELATED and now I HAVE COOLED DOWN.
why can't i stay mad for long like other people???
i'm just sweet :-)
right now i'm feeling like the song "Paper Planes" by MIA
it makes me feel light headed.
'nyways, check it out on youtube. don't know how to link it so...
still kinda pissed
Thursday, 2 October 2008
!!!tihs <---
please, can anyone tell me how to tell ones boss to shut the @%*# up!? very politely. without getting fired. :-)
no be me wan know o! na my friend.
but the information could still be useful ;-0
no be me wan know o! na my friend.
but the information could still be useful ;-0
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